3 Questions – August

Aug 30, 2023
Kemi Nekvapil Weekly Words Blog

In a client session the other day, my client told me she had no idea what mattered to her anymore. She could not distinguish what she thought should matter to her compared to what actually mattered to her. “I feel disconnected,” she told me. 

As a coach who is of service to women, this is not a new topic. I work with women who are deeply committed to working on themselves, for themselves, to be better leaders in their work and personal lives. 

I often hear of disconnection or a sense of disconnection from the people or things that matter most to them. Some clients tell me they are so disconnected that they don’t even know what matters anymore; every day ends with a feeling that something is missing. One client expressed this by saying, “I feel like I am missing in my own life.” 

There will be times in our lives when we feel disconnected from ourselves, the people we love, or the things that matter most to us.

This month's three questions will allow you to reflect on this for yourself and where you want to put your energy and focus right now: 

  1. To what or to whom do you feel most connected in your life right now? 
  2. To what or to whom do you feel most disconnected in your life right now? 
  3. What one action can you take in the next 24 hours that will move you closer to connection in an area of life that matters the most to you?

We often go straight to the big actions, which can feel so overwhelming that we take no action at all. You may find that your one action is to give or receive the hug, say sorry, send the email, arrange the catch-up, book the appointment, block out thirty minutes, go for the walk, or take the nap.

Not everything can matter equally; we are mere mortals with finite capacity. So, with the capacity we do have, let’s focus on connecting to what matters.

If you want to dive deeper into connection, you may want to listen to the Connection episode of my podcast The Shift Series. 

As always, I would love to hear your insights, thoughts or musings.

Wishing you a weekend of connection, one action at a time. 


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