Learn how to ask for what you need and want in all areas of your life.
As women, we have been raised to be constantly in tune with the wants and needs of others, which makes it hard to be in tune with our own wants and needs.
In The Gift of Asking book, I list fifteen impacts on women for not asking, here are a few; anger, disconnection, overwhelm, resentment, exhaustion, and lack of fulfilment.
You may be someone who never asks for what you need and want, or you may have one big ask that you are too afraid to act on alone.
Whether you want to ask for a raise at work, more intimacy from your partner, more innovation from your team, or help with the domestic load, this program will meet you where you are right now.
The Gift of Asking Program gives you the time and space to tune into your needs, and it ignites the courage you need to step into the driver's seat of your life. You will learn how to say no, how to set boundaries so you can start saying 'yes' to yourself.
Get a Glimpse into The Gift of Asking Self-Paced Program...
By the end of the program you will have the tools to...
A Good Girl
A Self-Expressed Woman
“This course was really nothing short of life-changing. It opened my eyes to the importance of identifying my needs, of owning them, of asking for what I need (without guilt and without justification), and of the positive - transformational - impact of my asking both for me but also for those around me. And Kemi created the most incredible environment for learning, for sharing, and for challenging ourselves. I could not recommend it highly enough.”
“I loved being part of this journey where I learnt so much. By doing this course, I feel empowered, energetic and confident in making changes that I believe will be positive and long-lasting and will take me closer to live in a way that I want to live without apology :) Doing the course with Kemi was wonderful. Thank you so much.”
Asking is one of the most powerful tools we have in life’s toolbox. When we ask, we own our worth and our lives.
Six months access to:
- 6 modules based on the live program
- Immediate access to pre-recorded lectures
- Printable self-coaching resources
- Detailed action plans
“Kemi facilitates a safe and supportive space to reflect, explore, gain clarity and practice asking with confidence. Very worthwhile experience!”
“Working with Kemi is a life changing experience. As a health professional who spends her life listening and in service to others, working hard on prioritising myself, my own voice and my personal power through the asking process has been amazing. I would highly recommend this course to anyone who feels that they need a greater framework and confidence to get what they know they desire in life.”
This program is for you if:
✓ You want to let go of the pressure that you need to do everything yourself.
✓ You want to let go of feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, taken for granted, or undervalued.
✓ You want to learn to say no with clarity and compassion.
✓ You want to let go of your 'I shoulds' and clarify what you want from your life.
✓ You want more from life, but you are not quite sure what or how to create it.
✓ You consider yourself a people pleaser and struggle letting others support you.
✓ You know want you want, but you are afraid to ask.
“This is a mind-shifting course. For me, it shone the light on and moved my ingrained assumptions about why asking was or was not OK. I was able to get comfortable with my discomfort but be OK at holding onto that while asking for things that I need and want...and to not overlay that with guilt or anxiety about what others will think”
“It was a journey of change and huge growth! I am much more confident to own what I want, even though it's uncomfortable as hell sometimes. Kemi inspired me to just go for it.”
My Origin Story.
"My story is not my excuse - it's my why."
As a black child raised by five sets of white foster parents (some incredibly loving, some - not so much), I always felt that I had to prove my worth so that I would be 'allowed to stay.'' I had no say in where I would live or who my new mom and dad would be. I was led to believe that, not only did I have to be a 'good girl' but a 'good black girl.'
I was always told to be thankful, always told to be grateful for what I had, never ask for more, and never rock the boat.
So I spent many years being nice and being good.
And now, with thirty years of personal development in my bones and doing my own internal work, things have changed.
Professionally, I am an ICF credentialed coach with nearly a decade of ethical coaching under my belt.
I work with women who want to lead value-based and empowered lives.
I am a feeling person - I can be with and honour my own feelings; so I can sit with and honour your feelings.
I am a person of meaningful action - I can guide you to create meaningful action that supports you and your life.
If you want someone to walk alongside you as you step into your worth and into the life you want, it would be my honour and privilege to support you.
Kemi Nekvapil is one of Australia’s leading credentialed coaches for female executives and entrepreneurs, an author and a highly sought-after international speaker. She has studied leadership and purpose at The Gross National Happiness Centre in Bhutan and trained with Dr Brené Brown to become a Certified Dare to Lead™ Facilitator, working with teams and organisations to create daring leaders and courageous cultures. Kemi is a facilitator for The Hunger Project Australia and a regular interviewer of industry icons including Elizabeth Gilbert, Martha Beck and Marie Forleo, and she hosts the number one ranking podcast The Shift Series. With a level of compassion and wisdom only gained through extraordinary life experience, Kemi is a powerful advocate for connected, value-based living.
“The Gift of Asking Program was an empowering experience to journey through, if at times a little confronting and uncomfortable. Kemi coaches through the program with such grace and compassion. She is present, firm, clear, and genuine in her facilitation of the whole program. My relationship with asking is forever changed, knowing I am worthy of the ask.”
“I finally feel WHOLE for the first time in a very, long time. I have realized that my health and well-being have three pillars: Physical, Mental and Spiritual. And that I need to be doing small things in each area, each day to feel whole, happy and joyful. And that if I can feel all of the feelings, including the ones that are hard or painful, that happiness and joy rushes in. And that in order to support my well-being, I need to Ask, Ask, Ask! Or else no one steps up to support me because I am inherently a Giver."
6 Lesson Program Overview
In this lesson we will explore your personal relationship to asking, your history, your stories and your beliefs.
In this lesson we will dig into what you want and need in your life and what you see as your main obstacles and challenges to getting your needs met. Setting boundaries and saying no are essential here.
In this lesson you will begin to ask for what you need and want in life, by focusing on the areas of life you want to shift from surviving to thriving.
This lesson will pull you out of your comfort zone and allow you to take a quantum leap in owning your worth.
This lesson will take your asking to new heights, as we approach asking as a game, a chance to practice and play. It is a fun and expansive adventure!
In this final lesson you will re-write your asking story and acknowledge how far you have come and what you have learnt on this journey.
“This is an exceptional program, and I recommend it to anyone wanting to push through habitual patterns of playing small and self-sabotage.”
“Kemi is masterful at getting you to ask the questions that invite you to go deeper into yourself and extract what it is you truly want."
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Frequently Asked Questions
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The Self-Coaching Check-In
I’ve compiled these questions to support you as you navigate life – the ups, the downs and the in-between times.
You may answer them all in one go, with your journal by your side, or you may want to dip in and out as challenges and goals arise.
These questions will bring you clarity, sharpen your focus, honour who you are, what you want, and how you want to contribute to the world.Receive Your Self-Coaching Check-In