We all have stories.
We will always make up stories; humans need to make sense of what is happening to us and around us.
We have stories about other people. Some are true, and some are entirely made up.
We have stories about ourselves. Some are true, and some are entirely made up.
I could list many stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, but in my experience of myself, and as a coach, the most popular stories we shackle ourselves with are variations of “I am not good enough”, “I am not worthy enough.”
Which lead to stories such as:
I am too… (fill the blank)
I am not… (fill in the blank)
I wish I were… (fill in the blank)
“Am I worthy?” is a human question.
Some of us have had the feeling of never being enough for as long as we can remember, so building a sense of worthiness takes time, support, action and self-compassion.
And with time, support, action and self-compassion, you can change your story.
By changing the way you respond to situations, you can change your story.
By taking significant actions and consistent small steps, you can change your story.
In my earlier years, the stories I believed were:
I had to be ‘nice’ all the time.
I was not beautiful.
I could not ask for more, better, different.
I had to wait to be chosen.
I no longer believe any of these stories.
I have had coaches since I started my business, and my stories about business and leadership have changed over the years.
The stories I believed were:
As a woman of colour, I didn’t belong in the corporate space.
All leaders were white men (except Martin, Nelson and Malcolm, but still men)
I didn’t understand money.
I was not a businesswoman.
I no longer believe any of these stories, and changing these stories has changed my life in ways I could never have imagined.
There are no top tips to changing our stories, but if you are willing to do the work, the results can and will rewrite your future.
Are you ready for your next chapter? Are you prepared for 2020? What story do you want to write?
Wishing you a weekend of meaningful rewrites. xxx
I currently have space for three more coaching clients; if you are one of them, I promise you that we will walk into 2020 powerfully.
Would you like support to rewrite your story?
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This is a genuine opportunity for you to experience my coaching method, and together we will decide if we are a good fit.
All you need to do is email me at email@example.com, and I will be in contact with you.
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