Every day we put up with big and small tolerations.
We live with them and put up with them because they are not that bad, they are not life-threatening and not worthy of the same attention as more important things.
But…. what we tolerate actually takes up a lot of mental space, and can shift our energy dramatically from positive to negative in an instant.
You start the day well and you get into your car, and the heater does not work. You tolerate it.
You do not have enough underwear, and every morning you hope you have a pair of knickers to wear (this was me: open disclosure).
There is never any water in the water-filter tank at work. You tolerate it.
Your toaster only toasts on one side of the toast. You tolerate it.
Your name is spelt wrong on a document, and every time you call up the company there is a long conversation about the spelling. You tolerate it.
None of these things have an impact on world peace or gender equality, but
all of these tolerations have a huge impact on our capacity to experience a sense of inner peace, wellness and calm.
To tolerate is not the same as to accept.
The Oxford Dictionary says:
Tolerate: Allow the existence, occurrence, or practice of (something that one dislikes or disagrees with) without interference:
Accept: Receive as adequate, valid, or suitable
When we are tolerating we do not feel the situation is adequate, valid or suitable, we just have not been bothered to do anything about it.
If you would like to reduce your level of tolerations, it is best to start small and sustainably so that you do not create overwhelm for yourself or those around you.
To begin with list your top five tolerations, and tackle each one once a week.
You can also estimate how long it will take you to complete each one; that way you know how much time you need. It usually turns out that most of our smaller tolerations only involve one phone call, one email or around 30mins to complete.
I would love to know what you are tolerating (big or small) and how you plan to complete it.
You will be amazed that such small actions can create such internal peace.