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Are You One Of Us?

I feel Incredibly blessed to have spent the last two weeks in the 
UK, connecting with family and some of my most loved friends.

I also feel incredibly blessed to back HOME!

Having lived in Australia now for nearly fourteen years, there is 
no doubt where my heart is and where my dreams and visions are 
now born.

My latest book, The Gift Of Asking was a vision of mine, and now 
that it is written, my next vision is getting it into the hands 
of women like you, where it can make the biggest difference.

How do you know if this book will make a difference to you 

Below are excerpts from the book, snippets of the ‘Asking Stories’ 
told by ten women including myself.

If in reading these excerpts you recognise yourself in any way, or 
if they stir something within you, I promise you that The Gift Of 
Asking will transform your relationship to asking, and therefore 

“I wish I had not felt the need to prove that I was always so 
ridiculously capable and strong. I never asked because I had never 
asked before. I had always done everything on my own. “

“I wish I had asked my mum so many questions about her – as a woman, 
as a little girl, her memories, her experiences, her fears, joys, 
how she was when she was a teenager, when she became a mother, her 
dreams. So many questions I never asked and now it is too late 
because her mind is gone.”

“At school I would not ask questions because I did not want to be 
that annoying girl who keeps interrupting the class with more 
questions. It is as though being curious or wanting to clear up 
misunderstandings through asking were not valued as good qualities – 
they were seen as social flaws. ”

“I needed help desperately when I had my daughter – we had just
moved to a new city, my dad had passed away the month before and
It was the middle of winter – but I did not know how to ask. I was 
tired, sad, lonely and too afraid to talk to anyone about how I was 
feeling. I wish I had asked for help.”

Michelle G
“I look back now and wish I had been more direct and asked much 
sooner – if only I had done it before I had gotten in too deep and 
started to undermine myself. I became increasingly resentful and 
stressed as time went on.”

“I know people who will help, it is just that I cannot ask. I feel 
it is a total inconvenience to ask them, and I find it stressful. 
And my daughter is impacted by me not asking, I know that.”

Michelle C
“Having decided long ago that I would never rely on anyone else to
provide me with what I want, I was actually putting restrictions on
myself. I was limiting myself to what I could do singlehandedly, then
knocking myself out doing the work of two or three people, and then
beating myself up when I couldn’t achieve the impossible.”

“Whatever situation I was in I had to be grateful and good. Asking 
equalled rudeness or ungratefulness. Asking meant I had failed to 
acquire the things on my own that I wanted, and that came across 
as weak, unqualified or unknowledgeable.”

“An early boyfriend I had when I was 19 broke up with me because 
he said I was hard work and too demanding. I probably was pretty 
hard work back then – weren’t we all at that age? But from then on, 
I decided that the key to making relationships work was to be less 
demanding and not ask for much.”

“When I think about it, that foster mother told me to be grateful 
for what I had whenever I asked for anything. It was her common 
response, and it was used as a full stop to any request I made. 
So in the end, I just stopped asking.”

Are you one of us?

If so, it is time to explore how asking impacts you and those 
around you.

Note: Only pre-ordered books receive the limited edition art print 
of The Asking Manifesto, so I invite you to take action now to secure 
your copy.Pre-orders end midnight Sunday 16 and all books ordered by 
then will be shipped out on Monday.

Order now 

I wish you a beautiful weekend filled with relaxation and comfort. xx